Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Unsolicited advice to qa young man contemplating marriage...

Dear k...  when you dropped the M word last night,one of the words that you let slip  was Torschusspanik.  And that probably is more revealing than you know.    

Despite my stupid reaction there were things that came to mind that I wished to tell you, but hey... Rose Monday and two beers....  it wasn't gonna happen.  

So...myunsolicitedadvice based on a lot of experience.  Getting married just because everyone else is is not a good idea.  

You should ask yourself the following:  is my partner to be a real friend=  That seems silly, but is far more important than most people realise.  By friend, I mean is she someone who shares most of your interests, who has the same sense of humour, who would be there for you no matter what, and who can just enjoy being silent without feeling uncomfortable, or wondering what you are thinking.  And would you feel the same way?  T If the answer to all that is yes,I see a good chance of you becoming a very happy man.

Seual compatibility is actually a secondary factor in a relationship.  It can grow and wane, and should never be the main reason to commit yourself for a lifetime if thatis all that is behind one's decision.  It only sets you up for a world of hurt somewhere down the line.I have known many people who have arrangents that are unorthodox, but their friendship and mutual respect is what holds them together.  

I sincerely wish you have found all that, because then you will have a rich life,and the obstacles that fate throws your way will be easier to overcome.  I wish it from the bottom of my black little heart.

And by the way...  thanks for prying this crustaceous old clam out if its' moorings yesterday and making him laugh as he hasn't in a long time.  I hope to return the favor.




Sunday, February 10, 2013

Fractured #Fairy Tale ii

  

Once upon a time, there was a boy....He grew up in a time when movies were magic, and the places they were shown in were palaces of grandeur and light and beauty.  And one of his first memories was being taken to the empress of all the teheaters in his town, with the big granite head on it side, the main room was vast and beautivul, and there were what he decided were Crhistmas trees depiced on the sides of the stage and had partridges in them, so he thought.  At eight, he'd no idea of what art was, or art deo...  it was just beautiful, hr thought.. And there was a monstoursly big chandelier way up above hanging miraculously from the ceiling. 

The boy became enamoured of seeing stories unfold and became enraptured of all the tleles they told, thinking that they might be ones that would come ture for him one day.  But he didn't go to that palace often, and changes abounded in the years he was growing up.

Ownership had passed from the father do the daughter, who married a man who had the same last name and she entrusted the running of the company to him, although his real interest lay in antiques, and the authenticating of the same.  In that, he was so expert, he became an advisor to the highest official in the land, and renovated their ...  and the nation*'s house.   He was a proud man, and an arrogant man.  Because, unlike the man who built a small cinema empire on his own, and was thankful for the employees who made him successful and rewarded them, he had grown up in a family of wealth and privilege.  

Yet he was smart enough to know that if he wasn't savv about running a cinema chain, he trained and hired the best managers possible to run it for them, and mostly sayed out of their way, and prospered very nicely.  

And for all his love of antiques...  he had no sense of what a jewel he possessed in the Emprss of the one city where most of his assets were.

The Boy would later meet two of the people who had been there from the beginning  An usher who had worked up through the rnnks to become a successful manager, and a cashier ticket seller who was rather odd and became outright dotty.

The manager presided over two palaces in Phlidelphia, which was a pretty exciting place to be in the Fifties...  He learned how to throw benefit showings for good causes, and 'society' thanked him for it generously.  Hollywood people mingled with mob types, and he handled it with aplomb.  He was a heavy-weighted man, with jowls, and eyes that twinkled with an innate good humour hard to be found anywhere, and a sense of generosity that was unbounded.

He retured to his home town and to manage the 'Emrpess and it's subsiuaries sometime in the late  Fifties.  The Empress played host to live concerts, and one charity event that had the people of the city on their ears for the SCANDAL....  a midnight showing... for charity...   of Fellini's 'La Dolce V'ita'....   one night only, and it was never shown in the state again.  Shock levels were very low compared to what the world knows today.  

Around the time that Ben Hur was shown, which the BOY attened, outraged that the price for a child had been jacked up from 59 to z5 cents, there had been a general remodeling.  Gone was the high glorious atrium, the ceiling had been lowered to an everyday entry, gone were the glorious art deco paintings to the sides of the screen, and every thing was the color of dried blood, drab and dull.  

And despite that, it still maintained the majesty it had always had, and to either side of the lobby the ceilings soared, and there were still remarkable chandeliers, and staircasee majestically rising to the upstairs level where the balcony and offices were.

In some of gthe auxillary palaces there were special events, and in the Fifties, there were late night monster flims where...  so read the placards...  the monsters came out of the screen and attacked the audiens... of tried to scare them at least.  Unfortunately, that never worked so well  The monsters were just poor ushers in costumes, and the local high school hoodlums were ginned up on beer or what not and beat on them.    Not the best call one could make...

And through all this, there was Gertil..  She'd been a ticket chashier since day one, and had become old....  very old.  Tiny, hawklike face, by the Fifties, hse had become every childs' nightmare   

Her arthritic hands made her fingers claw like, and she had unnaturally odd blonde hair.  Later the Boy would learn it was because she used coffee grounds in her shampoo, and thus the color, and believed that that was why they had never turned grey.  But she terrified him as a child.  

'PUT your money down!  PUT your money down!'  And the minute anyone did it was 'GEt yozur HANDS outta da box office!'  She was terrifying.

Although the Boy would work alongsinde her for some years later, he only learned a few things from her.  In quiet moments between shows, she woulod continue to pine over her deceased fiancĂ©.  'We were engaged for 20 years, but he died before we could get married.'  The 'Boy never figured THAT one out.  

Her proudest day was woking a venue in Boston, and the origina lowner paid ehr a compliment.  That one had no air conditioning, so on a hot day, you would seat people with spaces between them, so the air circulated better, and he told her 'Gerti, you really know how to seat a house'.  And that, coming from the origtinal owner was something she carried to her grave with pride...  that she really knew how to seat a house.

And it was something the subsequent owner would never have dreamed of saying.  His employees made him even richer, but his opinion was..htey were lucky to have HIM, not the other way around.  

Beginning in the Sixties, society began to chane, and would bring many to the Empress of theaters, and later ultimitely the decline and fall of the proud Empress.  To which the Boy was witness  

To be continued....